Thursday, December 27, 2012

Who Will Be There for the Strong?

Sometimes the strong die, too!
- Louise Gossett, Jr.
Are you one of those people who is always there when somebody needs you?   You know just what to say, exactly what to do to turn the worst situation into a conquerable challnge.   Everybody calls you.   Everybody needs you.   You are, after all, strong enough, smart enough, tough enough to make it through anything and everything.   Well, who do the strong go to?   Who do the strong lean on?    Where do the strong go when they are not feeling very strong?   When you set yourself up to be an anchor for everybody else, you jump ship yourself!   The need to be needed, the illusion that without us things would not get done, is actually the way we escape ourselves.   The strong have needs.   The strong have weaknesses!   Sometimes those needs are so deep and painful that, rather than face them, the strong run away.   When the strong take the weight of the world on their shoulders, they eventually break down.   The question is, Who will be there for the strong?  --- Take time for you, to do for you the same things you do for others.    

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Our Situation & The Real Meaning of Peace

Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to a divine purpose. From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: That we are here for the sake of others ... for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day, I realize how much my outer and inner life is built upon the labors of people, both living and dead, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received. ~ Albert Einstein

The Real Meaning Of Peace
There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But there were only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peaceful towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all.

But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest - in perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?

"Because," explained the king, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace." 

Wednesday, July 11, 2012


Experience is a good teacher but she runs up big bills
- Minna Antrim

If life is about learning and growing, whey do we think our relationships are beyond life's classroom?   Every relationship - family, friendship, love and marriage - is about growth and development.   There are certain skills we need.   Certain strengths we must develop.   Certain lessons we must learn.   Our relationships provide perfect framework for us.   We come together to share, learn and grow.   Once we have acquired the skill, imparted the information or leason learned, it is time for something else.  It is time to move on.   That may feel like, "You don't love me anymore."  

What it actually says is, "You don't have anything else to give me."   Or we could move beyond the emotion of it and look for growth, ending a relationship, moving out of a family or friendship would be a great deal less painful.   We want to learn how to be grateful for everything we get in our relaionships.   Somewhere beyond the grief, fear, pain and disappointment is a mighty lesson just waiting to be learned.   Every encounter is an experience of growth.

Sunday, May 6, 2012


Faith without work cannot be called faith.
- The New Open Bible

Faith must inspire action.   It alone cannot be verbal.   Mental faith is insufficient.   Faith is not believing, trying or hoping.   It is knowing by which you do.   Faith develops endurance to face the trials without being tempted to stop.   Faith produces doers.   Those who understand fewness of words, greatness of deeds are a measure of true faith.   Faith is obedience to the urgings of the spirit, the porthole through which all things have their being.   Faith controls the tongue, soothes the head and stifiles the passion to complain.   Faith produces patience.   Your words and actions determine the fullness of your cup.   If there is anyone or anything of unworthiness in your life you might ask yourself, "To what am I giving my faith?"

Let us put our faith in only those things that produce good for each of us.

Monday, March 19, 2012

All Roads Lead to the End

Help your friends with the things they know, for you know these things by Grace.
- The Maximx of Ptahhotpe

At a time when unity is so desperately needed it is significantly lacking.   Misunderstandings about basic philosophical differences place people on opposite poles.   Competition for perceived limited resources separate people along racial, social and gender lines.   The need to be right and feel supported separates us from those who hold different views and opinions.   Our internal obstacles and external oppositions create a debilitating conflict and limits the coming together of the people of the world.   If each of us would take the time to examine our feelings, we would see that "they" are right, too.   The nature, experiences and perceptions of individuals help mold the ideals they hold.   If we could remember and respect this right for everyone, we could avoid open confrontations.   There are so many causes and issues in the world and so many ways to approach them, it is unlikely we will all agree on one way.   Unity does not mean we will all believe in or do the same things.   It means we will agree to do something without battling over how and why.

Monday, February 20, 2012

Let Go!

Whatever leaves my life makes room for something better.

When we believe we are losing control, we grab on tight.   If we want to avoid pain, we hold on for dear life.   When we are in fear of losing, looking bad or being abandoned, we tighten our grip.   When our greatest fear comes upon us, we clench our fist and teeth, close our eyes and hold on.   We must learn how to let go.   We have the capacity to live through any adversity if we just let go.   We cannot stop time or destiny.  Whatever is going to happen has already happened; we must learn how to see it through to the end.   When we hold on, we prolong the pain.   When we dig our feet in, we must be uprooted.   When the time comes for growth and change, we must have the courage and faith to let go.

Thursday, January 26, 2012


No one can judge you unless you let them.  ~ Swami Nada Yolanda

Don't "should" on other people and don't let them "should" on you.   Should is a judgment we make based on our experiences and perceptions.   When we pass that on to other people, we are judging them.   Should is an expression of fear.   It says that our way is the right way; if you move beyond that, you might prove I am wrong.   Should is the way we control others, to make them think or behave the way we want them to.   Should takes us on a guilt trip and limits our capacity to grow.   If we only do the things we should do we will never learn another way we could do it.   Should limits us to what is comfortable.   Should keeps us in a place that is familiar.   Should makes us responsible to someone other than ourselves when we know that is not the way we "should" live.  I "should" do only those things that feel right for me.

Monday, January 16, 2012

Solitude of Your Mind

In the solitude of your mind are the answers to all your questions about life.   You must take the time to ask and listen.   - Bawa Mahaiyaddeen

There are times when we all feel we need to be alone.   We just want to get away from everyone and everything and be alone.   Sometimes we may feel guilty or selfish for thinking this way, but it is perfectly normal.   To be alone is the best thing we can do for ourselves.   To be alone means to be all one with the spirit within.   When we are alone, we have an opportunity to get in touch with, to talk to and be guided by our power source.   Spirit.   To be alone means going to the essence of your being.   To ask questions within and get clear, concise answers.   To be alone means taking the time to give to yourself a small portion of what we have been giving of ourselves for so long.   It is like drinking from the fountain of restoration to bring back your physical, mental and spiritual health.   So go ahead.   Tell them all and don't feel bad about saying it.   "I want to be alone."   Today we can be one with the spirit within.